Loving boundaries

Tag: problem-solving

  • How language helps children own their responsibilities

    The words parents use can either clarify responsibility or blur it. When a task belongs mainly to the child, repeatedly saying “we” can unintentionally suggest that the adult shares ownership of the job: “Have we done our homework?” or “We need to tidy your room.” Clearer language helps the child understand what belongs to them…

  • A three-question method for mediating conflicts between children

    When children are locked in an argument, adults often rush towards a solution. One child wants the toy, the other says it was theirs first, and the parent decides who gets it. That may end the incident, but it misses an opportunity to teach children how to understand conflict. A more useful approach is to…

  • How to turn decisions into practical action plans

    A child can make a sensible decision and still fail to carry it out because the plan remains vague. “I will study more”, “I will talk to her” and “I will be more organised” express intention, not implementation. After the choice, help the child turn it into a practical action plan: what will happen, when…